So, the dating culture keeps changing, but I think the underlying evolutionary psychology principles still say, stay more or less the same. Another interesting question is about language. Language is a really tricky case because, as Steven Pinker has pointed out, language is extremely useful for many functions. You can tell your friends how you’re going to hunt an animal and cooperate on tracking it down.
Books by Geoffrey Miller
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A lot of online dating sites like OkCupid with their match percentage recognize this. Your match percentage is basically saying if you want to be happy, do assortative mating. We’ve asked these thousands of questions you can answer on OkCupid specifically so you can do assortative mating.
Although the section about reading in “Living Rich” by Mark Ford is a much better overview on the subject of reading. My only complaint is that it did go on a hair longer than I thought it needed to; I found the first third amazing but thought it got a little less exciting from there. There GirlsDateForFree are still some great dating / mating takeaways for men here, though. The authors spend a great deal of time providing information that they wish they could have had in their younger years that not only helps men become more appealing to women, but helps men to better themselves overall.
My only issue in the book was on the subject of therapy. It said that if you have problems, you should see a therapist and almost said that everyone has problems, so it’s no big deal. Saying everyone has issues with their mentality and seeing a therapist would fix these issues.
And so, they just got into a terrible situation. But some people are attributing, you know, actual sort of Machiavellian intent to a lot of this. And I think my take is that Sam Bankman Freed had an extremely weird and extreme version of Expected Value Theory that he was sort of applying to his business decisions.
Talking to Women
Then, for the other 4 traits, we go through analogous interventions that you can do in life that are maximally efficient and effective and don’t take that much time but they really bring results. Basically, that means you have to go out and have experience and interactions and build up the traits that you know will be attractive to women. It’s very hard to feel confident if you don’t understand what women really want and if you know you haven’t cultivated the traits that they really want because then, you get this impostor syndrome where you feel like, “Okay, maybe I can talk a good line. Maybe I’ve got a good approach,” but it feels like a house of cards.
When talking to women, just make having fun and interesting conversations the goal. Learn to accurately read female comfort and discomfort cues. Women generally don’t reject men explicitly because of the very real risks they face from publicly humiliating their suitors. They’re just trying to reduce the risk of provoking harassment or stalking or violent retaliation.
Step 2: Develop Attractive Traits
But also don’t take too long to be intimate and connect with her — this tells her you’re jaded, indecisive, or cynical. Or are they still, you know, looking for mates even though they’re kind of, sort of in a relationship where everybody’s delaying, moving in together or getting married for years and years? So compared to Tinder hookup culture, I think polyamory is generally better. But honestly, for a lot of people, you know, their best option would be like, find a really good mate in college.
Women love effective men — competent and can handle problems. Promiscuity, group sex, anal sex are usually not sought after by women — because of STD risk with low pleasure return. And some STDs are more easily transmissible from man to woman than woman to man.
